I think the word forgiveness has caused and continues to cause problems when telling victims of offenses, whether of being cheated on by their romantic/dating partner or being victimized by crime.
Reason why: I feel like there are 2 contradicting definitions of forgiveness:
1: To slowly rebuild trust and privilege between you and your offender.
2: To heal and move on before your hurt feelings negatively affect your life, which doesn't mean you will ever give them privileges or forget about them.
Therefore, that's why phrases, such as: "heal and move on" need to replace the word forgiveness because of how ambiguous the definition is.
Yatsufusa
I feel like you're starting in the middle there. Without much context to go on, this might sound a bit generic, but:
I'd say 'regret' is the basis for forgiveness. If the offending party shows regret not just through words but through _actual_actions_, the offended party should forgive them - even if they may never trust them again. The important part to realize is that once trust has been broken, things will never go back to the way they were. Whatever happened, it is now part of the shared history of both parties. They might stay friends/partners or they might go their separate ways afterwards. Forgiving somebody is not the same as 'acting as if nothing happened'.
ExtraLegalStar25
I guess you're right. If I were to define the word forgiveness based on your comment, it would be: "Healing yourself and not seeing everything about your offender as negative, but rather setting boundaries."